7 Steps To Building Your Own Givers Community 

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About this episode:

In this episode of the Agency Spark Podcast, Sara talks with EA Csolkovits on 7 steps to building your own Givers community.

EA is an entrepreneur, business consultant, writer, and founder of GIVERS University. EA started working at the age of 16 as a janitor which led him to meet his first mentor, Sam Robbins. At age 21, EA became the chairman of House of Holland Jewelers and then at age 23 he became a millionaire. He started and operated Columbia Nutrition System and Delta International, hosted a business radio talk show (E. A. Csolkovits Live) for many years, and is a high-end, results-oriented business consultant.

Key topics:

  • why having a Giver community is so important for your personal and business growth
  • how to respectfully disassociate yourself from Taker communities
  • how to build your very own Givers community in 7 steps

More from EA Csolkovits:


Sara Nay (00:00): This episode of the agency, spark podcast is brought to you by pod match a platform that automatically matches ideal podcast hosts and guests for interviews. Learn more at pod match.com/signup/agency spark.

Sara Nay (00:21): Welcome to the agency spark podcast. This is your host, Sarah nay, and I have challenged my guests to come prepared with impactful, actionable insights they can share in just about 10 minutes. So you can walk away, take action and get back to your busy day. Today. I have EA Slovic, an entrepreneur business consultant writer, and founder of givers. University EA started working already at the age of 16 as a janitor, which led him to meet his first mentor, Sam Robbins at age 21, EA became the chairman of house of Holland jewelers. And then at age 23, he became a millionaire. So welcome to the show EA,

EA Csolkovits (00:59): Thank you so much for having me on your great show and hopefully we, we can share some great gold nuggets with your listeners.

Sara Nay (01:04): I am sure we will. I'm really excited to hear about your topic today. We've actually spent a lot of time developing communities over the years. And so one of the things that we're gonna talk about is how to build a giver community and essentially avoid taker community. So I would love to hear your thoughts on that.

EA Csolkovits (01:22): Great, thank you. Appreciate the opportunity to be able to share. We actually, at first at givers university, we teach people how to discern in one word. That's what we do. And I share with your listeners as a foundation for this, that, first of all, we love everybody. I say it again. We love everybody and we teach people how to separate the person who we love from their deeds, which we may not love. And through discernment in our relationships, we can observe them doing certain things, not listening to what they're saying, observe what they actually do, their deeds. And then from watching that we can decide, should I bring them closer into my life, into my giver community? Because we all wanna build the right people around us or because of what I see them doing the actual DS, should I begin respectfully, not rude or nasty?

EA Csolkovits (02:12): Should I begin respectfully distancing myself from them? Because if I bring them closer, they're gonna make me collateral damage and I'm gonna be stomping out fires, not at my making and my stress. Level's gonna go up every time I talk to them or see them. So we help people how to discern, how do you decide which people you should and shouldn't have in your life? And we don't judge people. We don't say you're a giver and you're a taker. We label deeds. In other words, we teach an observation skill. Don't listen to what they say, watch what they do. And we even have checklists that go through. One of my favorite is the 25 dues, which I'll reference again in a few moments. And basically it lists the 25 deeds. The TW we call 'em the 25 dues that you should watch people do. And when you see them doing these things, the answer actually is right there for you on whether you should begin to pull them in closer, cuz you want them closer to you or should be respectfully distancing. So simply put Sarahs. I'm a self-improvement person. You are, I'm sure many of your listeners are, but no one's teaching us. What about the other guy? What if he's not doing it right? What should I do about that? And that's really the heart of discernment where we're at and helping people, how to build those givers communities.

Sara Nay (03:30): I love it definitely peaked my interest with the 25 dues. And I love examples. I understand concept of paying attention to what other people are actually doing. Not just saying, but I'd love it. If you'd dive into some of these examples of the 25 dues, essentially,

EA Csolkovits (03:45): For sure. One of the things just real quick is that a giver will be the one who has the ability to delay gratification in any task. In words they're willing to put in the time, put in the effort and they'll do that toward the end result. By contrast, you'll see the taker will be the first one to say, Hey, pay me up front. I won't talk to you. I won't do any of this. It's always me first me, no matter what and what I want first. And you can see it in the ways and the things that they actually do. And what's interesting about this checklist that I referenced on the left side. It's the 25 things you will see givers do. You'll watch them actually do these deeds. And it's specifically very granular. And on the other side, these are the 25 things you'll see takers doing contrasting, and you literally do check marks and at the bottom, you total it up and you're automatically on the right path.

EA Csolkovits (04:36): Should I pull them closer or should I be respectfully distancing and maybe observe them a little bit more. So when we get into giver communities and I've had this happen, I'm sure your listeners have too where they say, join our community. Be a part of our community. We're all the same people. And within about six hours, they're trying to sell you everything under the sun, right? That a giver community. And that's not a community. It's a customer Hitler list. Why not just call it what it is? Why are you debating and switching me and calling it a community. It's a customer Hitler, call it a prospect list. If I like your products, I'll stay on and maybe learn more, but don't call it what it's not a community. So a taker community by reference is a community forms specifically to make money off of you, take something from you by contrast a giver community are those who expectation have made an agreement upfront to contribute to the group and benefit as a result of everyone equally contributing to the group.

EA Csolkovits (05:35): Now the next part in our interest of time. And I, I love the fact that you've got a nice short show is because everyone's on the run today. And it's great for are people that get information. We all want it fast in yesterday, right? So I'm gonna hit the next seven steps really quick in mind, knowing that your listeners have the opportunity to go back through and listen to these and take notes on 'em. I'm just gonna hit 'em really quick so that your listeners can benefit by them. The seven steps, informing your giver community, spell the word discerned. D I S C E R N. The first D stands for decide, decide who you wanna have in your community. And we use the 25 dues checklist. All this is free, by the way we provide all of it. We want people download it. We want 'em to print it off and put it in their pocket.

EA Csolkovits (06:19): So the first step is, decide, who are you gonna have? And this one guy said, wow, there's great stuff. I read a book says, I should have five good people around me. I said, you should one question which five. And all of a sudden, he stared at me with this blank guy. I said, you see my point? No, one's teaching you the skill of decide which five should it be? You're right about the five. So the, I stands for invite. How do you invite these people? The S stands for seed means there's expectational agreements. That should be agreed upon upfront from all the participants in the community. These are the things we hold ourselves accountable for. You've heard Napoleon Hill's book think and grow rich. does an excellent job explaining the mastermind. But what he does is at that time, when Napoleon was explaining it, it was novel, right?

EA Csolkovits (07:05): He explains what it is. He doesn't explain how to do it. That's where we come in. We explain how do you put together this mastermind? Or we would say a mastermind on steroids. These are a we form. We teach people how to form massive ones internationally. We teach people how to form more intimate ones that are two to 12 people that are confidential, even business advisors. And then we teach people how to form. What's called a millionaires, June 12, people who are actually vetted millionaires. We walk them through step by step, back to our seven steps. Deed decide. I invite SSC expectational agreements with seed that everyone agrees upfront. We will all be hold each other accountable by being a part of this group to give to it and to help contribute to it. C is convene. You have to convene on a regular basis, whether it be weekly month with Ben Franklin, his community, which he called his June to met every Friday for a couple of hours.

EA Csolkovits (07:59): Henry Ford had what he called the four vaon that what? The name? He gave it for his community of four close people around him, himself. Harvey Firestone Thomas Edison and John burs. So E in discern is establish, give it a name like Ben Franklin called it the Le ultimately the leather apron club and Henry Ford's example with the four. Vaon give it a name that helps with the camaraderie of the group. Our rotate, every meeting should be a different leader who is, uh, chairing the meeting. Shouldn't be the same person week to week rotate each week and numbers broadcast out form. Other communities, be a part of other communities, go in with the intention of what you can contribute and give. And I was on an event, uh, not too long ago. And the lady I was that, you know, the heads of speakers together. And uh, they says, I don't like to give it all my stuff because I'm afraid people can steal it.

EA Csolkovits (08:50): And I said, boy, you're not gonna like, but I'm gonna say next, but I'm gonna say it. Cause I'm that person. I'll just say it. I said, if you're concerned about people stealing your stuff, you don't have enough stuff. It's just that simple. It's just that simple. So discern again, stands for de decide. I invite S C with agreed upon expectational agreements. C convene establish list are rotate the chairs and numbers and branch out. And we teach people step by step by step. Even if they went to our, uh, givers university, YouTube channel, it's one word givers, university, no space, and it'll pull it up. They will see a whole playlist of literally two minute clips taken from the very beginning. What is the difference between a givers taker community explaining all seven of these steps in detail, two minute clips. And now we're actually at the point, let's see we're on episode 18 of that playlist. And now we're talking about the agenda. What do you do on an ongoing basis when you're actually having your meetings? And then we'll sum up by our 21st episode. So then go to our actual YouTube channel, old givers university, get it all for free. See the clips, learn and start building the right kind of community around you and disassociate with the ones that are taker communities.

Sara Nay (10:06): Very helpful stuff. When we think about marketing, we actually have the seven steps to small business marketing. And so I really appreciate the structure and the system that you put behind. You mentioned your YouTube channel. If people wanna learn more, um, is there anywhere else that people should connect with you online if they wanna take an additional information on this topic?

EA Csolkovits (10:25): Sure, absolutely. Go to our website again, one word givers, university.com. It's plural. And they'll see a place to sign up for our newsletter, which is free. We're not spamer so the moment they sign up for our newsletter, they're gonna get an email says, do you wanna talk with these people? If they don't answer that they will get nothing else from us. There's no communicate. We don't spam. Then hate that you sign up for something. Next thing you got blown up your inbox. And so I, so we send out one email a week and that email's on Thursday morning, it's called the givers toolbox. And every week we give them a new tool. They can add their relationship toolbox and help them discern with their relationships. So in that also they're gonna see the two minute clips on how to build your own giver community. And we walk them through it's about a five minute read, but that's it once a week, Thursday morning. And we're, we need to walk our talk. So as givers community, we provide these things to them as great tools, knowing that some day it will come back to us.

Sara Nay (11:20): Yeah, I love it. I was gonna say, you mentioned you're not spamers it's because you're givers, you're hitting 'em on a regular occurrence and you're providing value every time you do, as you said, you're practicing what you preach, which I love to hear. Thank you. So thank you so much for being on the show. I really loved learning your insights on this specific topic. And thank you all for listening to the agency's spark podcast. This is your host Sarana and we'll see you next time.



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